Why “You Got This, Mama” Is Burning Women Out and What We Actually Need Instead
There is a phrase I hear constantly. It’s usually offered with good intentions. A quick smile. A nod of encouragement.
“You got this, mama.”
And every time I hear it, something in my body tightens.
Season 3 of Unapologetically Yours is asking for a deeper level of honesty. Not the kind that performs strength, but the kind that tells the truth about what it actually costs women to hold everything together. This episode came from a place of frustration, grief, and clarity all at once. From noticing how often pressure gets mistaken for support. How often women are praised for enduring what was never meant to be carried alone.
Motherhood is beautiful. It is also overwhelming, identity-shifting, and deeply demanding. Somewhere along the way, we decided that encouragement looks like telling women to muscle through instead of offering real care. That independence means isolation. That strength means silence.
In this solo episode, I am naming the cost of that narrative and sharing what I have learned the hard way. Burnout is not a personal failure. It is what happens when we over function for too long without support, creativity, rest, or community. When we disconnect from our bodies and call it resilience.
You can listen to the full episode here:
In this episode, I talk about:
Why the phrase “you got this mama” isolates women instead of supporting them
How masculine over functioning shows up as burnout and disconnection
Reconnecting with feminine embodiment as a path back to vitality
Why creativity is not optional, but an essential need
Nervous system regulation as a foundation for sustainable motherhood
How community becomes medicine when pressure is no longer the answer
… and so much more!
“It’s not ‘you got this, mama.’ It’s ‘I got you, mama.’”
My Key Takeaways from This Episode
Burnout reflects isolation.
Burnout is not happening because women are weak or incapable. It happens when we are expected to carry everything alone. When the message is pressure instead of support. We do not need more pressure. We need each other.Over functioning erodes vitality.
Constant doing disconnects us from our bodies. When we override our needs long enough, we lose access to our intuition, our creativity, and our sense of self. The body always knows when something is out of balanceCreativity is nourishment.
Creativity is not extra. It is how we stay alive. Expression brings us back into our bodies and reminds us who we are beyond our roles. When creativity disappears, something essential goes quiet.Children learn by watching.
Our children learn how to live by watching how we live. They learn whether we rest, whether we ask for help, whether we stay connected to ourselves. We cannot teach embodiment from the sidelines of our own lives.Community is essential.
Community is how we push back against the lie that we are meant to do this alone. It gives us a place to tell the truth, to be held in it, and to remember our capacity when we are supported instead of pressured. That’s why I love creating spaces beyond the podcast where women can gather, regulate their nervous systems, reconnect with their bodies, and experience creativity and healing together through retreats, breathwork gatherings, and group coaching. Not to fix themselves, but to remember who they are in the presence of others.
This episode left me feeling grounded and clear. Clear about how much we have normalized burnout. Clear about how desperately women need one another. And clear about the fact that strength does not come from doing it all ourselves. It comes from letting ourselves be held.
Whether you are a mother, a leader, a creative, or someone quietly holding too much, I hope this episode helps you feel less alone and more supported in telling the truth about what you need.
This conversation is about embodiment, self trust, creativity, and community. It is about choosing care over pressure and connection over isolation.
Connect with me:
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Website: https://ashleydlogan.com
Resources Mentioned
Ashley Logan’s workshops, retreats, and in person gatherings (Somatic practices including breathwork and sound healing, Creative expression through music, art, and journaling, Community based support for women).
The Gateway group coaching cohort for women seeking deeper support and embodied connection.
If you have a topic or guest you’d love to see featured on the podcast, reach out at podcast@unapologeticallyyours.com. I’d love to hear from you.
Unapologetically Yours,
